Thursday, February 28, 2019

10 Reasons Why We Should Allow Children To Fail

This illustration popped in my Facebook newsfeed and it was from The Teachers Trainer page. Having a teenager who is very active in school, academically and even in extra-curricular activities. She has been a consistent honor student since she was in kindergarten. As a working Mom, my time to assist her with school works and other school-related stuff are sometimes limited. Encouragement and being there with her as much as I can are my keys to show her and let her feel that I support her. Now that she's in Grade 8, ranked first in the last grading period and also got the academic awards in some of her subjects, I saw how she became eager and pressured to retain her ranking. I heard her one time uttering the words "I need to do more so I can retain my grades and ranking, I am pressured, Mom!" I told not to be and also it is a normal feeling to be pressured but she can do better, just remain focus and never be complacent. The only worry she needs to handle is her self. I guess this is the failure side of what she is experiencing right now. The fear of failing and losing the academic rank she has right now. 

Failure is a big part of a human being existence, I don't know anyone who never experiences failure in life. The degree of failure depends on the current situation of the person. 

Failure in life, work, business, relationship, friendship and a lot more to categorize with. Through this failure, lessons can be learned. This lessons can hone you on what kind of person you will become in the years to come. Failure can start as early as when you were born. Should we allow ourselves to experience failure? Should we let failure sets in and embrace it? From the image above, what are the 10 reasons why we should allow children to fail?

  1. Failure helps children to learn from mistakes and improve for next time.
  2. Failure helps build character and helps us to be more courageous.
  3. Failure is an important learning experience for children to go through.
  4. Failure promotes problem-solving skills.
  5. Failure teaches children how to be more resilient.
  6. Failure can help children to develop competence and autonomy in the future. 
  7. Failure encourages improvement and critical thinking skills.
  8. Failure encourages children to develop coping skills.
  9. Failure teaches the children the importance of hard work and perseverance.
  10. It helps children to push themselves out of their comfort zone.

As a parent, how do you cope with your children when dealing with failure in any aspect of their lives? 

Do you agree on what and how failure can be embraced with open arms? 


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  2. This is just what I needed to read. I'm often to protective of the girls and I should let them learn some lessons on their own.


  3. I totally agree we all should allow children to fail in a snall way at first. It only teaches them that no one is perfect.

  4. I wish everyone believes in your message, i really do! Every parent that i know wants their kids to always win which is not reflective of what goes on in real life!!! I can't agree more with what you said.

  5. I had to stand back and do this recently. I think it's harder for us than the kids, lol, but totally we have to do it sometimes. That's how lessons are learned.

  6. Absolutely! I had to work on my own beliefs because I felt since I was a kid that I wasn’t good enough or that mistakes and failures were bad. Thank you for sharing this with us.

  7. As a parent, I find allowing my kids to fail can be the hardest thing for me to do, but reading your post I agree and under why this is so important on their self development. Protecting them is not the answer.

  8. i do believe that kids need to learn on their own mistakes - it is so hard to watch it tho x kind regards Pati Robins from @style-squeeze blog

  9. It’s true!!! We really do learn so much when we fail. It’s hard to watch our little ones fail, but it will be worth it when we see them do something epic due to the lessons they learned!